tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7489980026578008309.post6253882983912669654..comments2023-05-20T04:27:43.174-05:00Comments on A Bumpy Path: What's Behind the LiesAnonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04897998579496410028noreply@blogger.comBlogger11125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7489980026578008309.post-62659219660082942202008-08-05T10:24:00.000-05:002008-08-05T10:24:00.000-05:00Lisa, there are some people who deceive just for f...Lisa, there are some people who deceive just for fun. Antisocial personality disorder is one of them. It is far more prevalent than you realize because most of us think of serial killers out there. But, the disorder is on a continuum in its severity. Like, I knew one antisocial personality that was quite the bastard, but since he was afraid of going to prison, he kept himself in check.<BR/><BR/>Understanding the mechanics of lying and deceit won't change the fact that it is unacceptable behavior, but it gives us a running start on how to curb it, especially in ourselves.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04897998579496410028noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7489980026578008309.post-13878499143732308972008-08-05T06:41:00.000-05:002008-08-05T06:41:00.000-05:00as someone who has just been dealt a nice round of...as someone who has just been dealt a nice round of cards with some people who fit this bill, I was happy to see that there in fact are reasons for people to act the way they do. I was beginning to think some folks just liked to harm others for fun.<BR/><BR/>Thank you for all the wonderful posts here.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7489980026578008309.post-59928273256490555042008-08-02T16:40:00.000-05:002008-08-02T16:40:00.000-05:00Heh. How come we're never as honest about sex? In ...Heh. <BR/><BR/>How come we're never as honest about sex? In France they talk about sex in public so honestly it's intimidating. <BR/><BR/>I give the elderly a pass when they say hello to me. How could you not when you see someone loaded with pins like that? <BR/><BR/>I'm antisocial with a conscience. Go figure.T.C.https://www.blogger.com/profile/10275996524128634117noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7489980026578008309.post-8174183704011320322008-08-02T16:08:00.000-05:002008-08-02T16:08:00.000-05:00Here is the textbook description of the personalit...Here is the textbook description of the personality disorder I believe this woman has:<BR/><BR/><STRONG>Narcissistic Personality Disorder Symptoms</STRONG><BR/><BR/>A pervasive pattern of grandiosity (in fantasy or behavior), need for admiration, and lack of empathy, beginning by early adulthood and present in a variety of contexts, as indicated by five (or more) of the following: <BR/><BR/> 1. has a grandiose sense of self-importance (e.g., exaggerates achievements and talents, expects to be recognized as superior without commensurate achievements)<BR/> 2. is preoccupied with fantasies of unlimited success, power, brilliance, beauty, or ideal love<BR/> 3. believes that he or she is "special" and unique and can only be understood by, or should associate with, other special or high-status people (or institutions) <BR/> 4. requires excessive admiration<BR/> 5. has a sense of entitlement, i.e., unreasonable expectations of especially favorable treatment or automatic compliance with his or her expectations <BR/> 6. is interpersonally exploitative, i.e., takes advantage of others to achieve his or her own ends<BR/> 7. lacks empathy: is unwilling to recognize or identify with the feelings and needs of others<BR/> 8. is often envious of others or believes that others are envious of him or her <BR/> 9. shows arrogant, haughty behaviors or attitudes<BR/><BR/>Those with narcissistic personality disorder project an inflated sense of self because underneath that image of grandiosity is really an insecure person with very low self-esteem. The grandiose image is a way to protect themselves from others at all costs. <BR/><BR/>http://www.mentalhelp.net/poc/view_doc.php?type=doc&id=479&cn=8Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04897998579496410028noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7489980026578008309.post-62380791494359614252008-08-02T15:53:00.000-05:002008-08-02T15:53:00.000-05:00I have meet some real ( they thought they were any...I have meet some real ( they thought they were anyway) professional liars. The kind of people that would climb a tree to tell you a lie when they could stand on the ground with the truth. The kind of people that if they told me grass was green and sky was blue Id have to go outside to check.<BR/> One gal was the worst Id ever met. Theresa and I met her online through a horse group. She lived in the same town I did. She was quite intelligent which made her constant lies especailly creepy. The kind of person that looks you square in the eye and goes into the most elaborate long winded lies and tells them as if she herself believed every word. Let me explain a little bit of it.<BR/> This gal started off telling us all she was a lawyer ( no offense natl state hawg), and also a grad prix level eventer ( horse jumping) that was an olympic hopeful. She as time went by told us she had ran the largest semi-trucking company in the entire US (all by herself of coarse) Had been a stripper in Las Vegas (sorry didnt have looks for that) a playboy bunny ( that either) and quickly added to that story "European Edition" after Id guess realising that could have been checked easy enough. Hum...lets see she also had nearly died of stage FOUR cancer, not once but TWICE, Dated John Michael Montgomery ( country singer) and went on dates with him in his lear jet but had to break up because he drank too much. Did I mention that she was only about 30 yrs old and had two healthy children one 7 and the other a baby at the time. ( wonder when she had time for all this? especially the dying from cancer twice)<BR/> The weird thing is the whole time I knew this gal I told her on a regular basis how much I hated liars. She would just agree. lol!<BR/> For awhile I was downright angry about it, as it ALWAYS pisses me off to be blantantly lied to with outrageous stories as I feel that, that is a REAL insult to MY intelligence that the person would really think that Im that stupid and gullible. Sorry...I was single for five years and my bullshit detector is in pretty good order. Then...I got to feeling sorry for this person. I wondered who had beaten this persons self worth down to the point that the only way they could feel good about themselves was to be constantly telling some outrageous lie. Then I wondered if that was it at all or maybe some form of mental illness? Long story short I moved away and no longer had to deal with this person for which I am eternally grateful, but I still wonder what causes some people to be pathological liars. I'll probably never know.<BR/> p.s. The Lawyer story changed to a Law Student story, and finally I found out her knowledge of the law was from being a telephone receptionist in a law office. <BR/> HRSLADYAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7489980026578008309.post-86213212437056909062008-08-02T11:24:00.000-05:002008-08-02T11:24:00.000-05:00Well, Hawg... It's much easier to take the hell y...Well, Hawg... It's much easier to take the hell you get when telling the truth than it is the hellfire you get when caught in a lie! Listening skills help a lot too. So does diplomacy.<BR/><BR/>Or are you the one that came home with that red sports car?Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04897998579496410028noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7489980026578008309.post-45368802832653868312008-08-02T09:43:00.000-05:002008-08-02T09:43:00.000-05:00Weighty stuff, Theresa!You would have had a field ...Weighty stuff, Theresa!<BR/><BR/>You would have had a field day with me back when I was a lawyer.<BR/><BR/>I've learned over the years that it's best to just tell the truth up front and take the hell that follows right then. Getting caught in a lie is painful, indeed.<BR/><BR/>I've gotten yelled at plenty at my wife for being absolutely truthful, but it makes for an honest relationship.<BR/><BR/><A HREF="http://naturalhawg.blogspot.com" REL="nofollow">The Natural State Hawg</A>HawgWyldhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02749940044190568834noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7489980026578008309.post-86864369755926708032008-08-01T23:42:00.000-05:002008-08-01T23:42:00.000-05:00When doing my research, Fish, I remember reading t...When doing my research, Fish, I remember reading that constant lying like what you describe is often a major part of the personality disorders. Then, you always have to weigh whether they are aware of their lies or not. <BR/><BR/>I agree with you - lies are never easy to take. Not only do I feel the broken trust, but I also feel betrayed. It is strange.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04897998579496410028noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7489980026578008309.post-77994971643035802352008-08-01T23:36:00.000-05:002008-08-01T23:36:00.000-05:00It sounds like an old adage or cliche; but I reall...It sounds like an old adage or cliche; but I really have met some people who would rather tell you a lie than the truth--even when the truth would serve them better at the time. It was rather strange at best and quite disturbing in the worst cases.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16349087080262856079noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7489980026578008309.post-67120949951198863852008-08-01T10:37:00.000-05:002008-08-01T10:37:00.000-05:00Hi BK!No doubt in my mind that there is absolutely...Hi BK!<BR/><BR/>No doubt in my mind that there is absolutely no reason to not be as honest as humanely possible at all times. I'd rather say nothing at all than tell a fib.<BR/><BR/>Thanks for stopping by!Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04897998579496410028noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7489980026578008309.post-90355853099270363322008-08-01T04:38:00.000-05:002008-08-01T04:38:00.000-05:00A great post. I am a person who don't like people ...A great post. I am a person who don't like people lying to me as I do not like to lie to others also. In so speaking, it also doesn't mean that I never lied before. Much as I don't like it, a few white lies might be necessary at times, but doesn't mean it is 'right' to tell white lies. However, telling white lies would make me feel 'guilty' after that as it goes against my value of honesty. I remember a quotation, that I like very much and follow closely, that goes something like this, "If we tell the truth always, then we would not need to cover up later."Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com