Positive and negative, black and white, on and off, up and down… and spirit and matter. All are conditions of each other; one can’t exist without the other.
Overly pensive and abstract?
Think about it this way, using one of those old, wise sayings: You are what you think.
The trick then becomes rather simple: Think.
The more you think, the more your emotions become relevant, appropriate, complete and in the end, the truth. It is what honesty, loyalty and integrity are built on.
It is the alignment that begins wholeness.
Yes, it’s abstract, but give it a few moments to mull around and alight on something substantial in your memories.
So many things are subjective, and they become moreso if what you feel happens without thought. This is everywhere and used mercilessly as a way to get you off the couch and move you into action. Like, a few headlines I just read: “1-year-old burned alive,” or “Floods wipe out homes, dreams,” or “Teacher found not guilty at ‘dirty dancing’ trial.” You are burned, wiped and dirty-dancing your way into framing the facts of those stories based on your initial emotional reaction.
I pick on news headlines, but it’s everywhere. You may even use the same tactic yourself without realizing what you are doing. I catch myself doing it when I throw one of my infamous temper tantrums. The first thing out of my mouth turns out to be something like, “You wouldn’t believe what that sneaky little so-and-so did now,” or “Why in the world would someone keep doing the same thing knowing the results won’t be any different?”
(Usually, if I am truly angered, I resort to using Big Words. It’s funny. That’s the only time I come off as someone who is edu-ma-cated or edu-medicated. Whatever.)
The scary ones, though, are the ones that catch you blindsided by not introducing the emotive intro before striking. They work their asses off to bring others down to pump themselves up. These are the snakes-in-the-grass sorts, the two-faced ones; and they get me every time. I can’t think like that, so I am vulnerable. I don’t understand it, can’t come close to relating to it, and never see it coming.
The point is, how you think of yourself and those around you shapes the way you are perceived by others. The trick is to evaluate yourself and see if it matches what you think others think of you. When you think of how you think others think of you, you are actually exercising your empathy (always a good thing) and testing your honesty with yourself (always, always a good thing).
Now, is what you are feeling - whether it be about yourself or your reaction to thinking about what others think of you - balanced, congruent, real and honest?
The next step is to think about the ups-and-downs, the on-and-off, the black-and-white aspects of everything. Can’t have one without the other. Take a step back from that two-faced snake-in-the-grass sneaking up on your blind side and you will see the “whole” of it all. By its very nature, the opposite nullifies the damaging, hurtful side. In the end, that sort of person is neutered and rendered harmless.
As above, so below. The whole is uninterrupted.